Things that you should know about people…
Most of you reading this will already know what I’m about to mention, but I’m here to reiterate the things that you should know about people. This post will be concise because I don’t want this to turn into an ‘I hate people’ rant, or anything like that (although it’s very tempting, as there’s one person on my mind that I would quite possibly like to rant and rave about). Anyway, for those of you who need reminding, here are some things that you should know about people…
People will act out of self-interest
One of the first things that you should know about people is that they will always, always, at some point, act out of self-interest. I’ve done it, you’ve done it – everyone has. This is not necessarily a bad thing. People can do things for themselves.
However, sometimes people will be selfish and will put themselves first, to the detriment of another. You’ll see this in all sorts of situations (such as this one); I mostly see it in relationships and have recently encountered it. If someone does something out of selfishness and it ends up hurting you, you shouldn’t spend time thinking about why they did it. Too many of us do that. Instead, you should acknowledge that that person chose to put themselves first, and that you have two decisions: the first, is to forgive them and get past it. The second, is to walk away and move on. Sometimes, it really is that simple.
You will come across ignorant people
Sometimes you will come across people who are just downright uneducated – to the point where you will want to beat them with a stick (been there). A good way to come across these people is on the internet; I promise you, you won’t have to look too hard if you know where to go. Just to be clear, I’m talking about those willfully ignorant individuals, whose favourite pastime is to spread hate and misinformation as far and as wide as they see fit. This is the sad reality that we live in, and it is one of the most important things that you should know about people. If you ever encounter this type of person, the best thing that you can do is try to educate them – maybe send them a few informative links. But at the end of the day, as one of my favourite bloggers says, ‘you don’t owe them shit.’ Recognise that these people exist for whatever reason, ignore them and move on.
Opinions won’t be the same
Sometimes, having a different opinion isn’t a bad thing. I should say that it’s never a bad thing, but I honestly don’t think that’s true. Nevertheless, it should still be said that if people are respectfully expressing their opinion and it happens to be different from yours, then be respectful back. People can think differently from you. If they’re being hateful or discriminatory, then please see above.
Opinion doesn’t equate to fact
This is next on my list of things that you should know about people, because so many of us need to hear it (including me). An opinion doesn’t equate to fact. Facts equates to fact.
While your opinion may not always be ‘right’ (god knows, I need to remember this), it also means that you shouldn’t follow another person’s opinion, blindly. I don’t know if any of you have ever experienced this, but whenever I had an viewpoint that wasn’t the same as someone else’s and I was indirectly confronted about it, I always felt like my opinion was automatically wrong. If I’m honest, I still get this now.
It’s a load of shite.
Just because someone doesn’t agree with you, doesn’t mean that you’re stupid for thinking differently, or that you’re automatically ‘wrong.’ Listen to others, but don’t take what other people have to say as fact.
People will be different
One of the final things that you should know about people is that not everyone is the same. People will have different values to you; different ambitions. This isn’t something that should be mocked or scorned. In a world full of so many closed-minded individuals it’s very important to recognise this. Respect other cultures, customs, and religions. Also, respect other things that are different to your way of life (excluding those that cause obvious harm to others). Be more open-minded. There a lot of things that you do that could be seen as alien to others. We need difference and variation, not just ‘sameness.’
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